Excerpt from the Foreword of “The Spirit of Intimacy”

Listen Siblings, I come in peace,

“Our senses serve to affirm, not to know.”KMT Proverb

As an African who loves our people, I sometimes lose composure adoring the women of our race; for their beauty is supreme. But senses are to affirm beauty; not to learn of it. It is spirit which guides us to the right relationships. Those strong bonds can inspire poetry, but more importantly, those strong bonds suit purpose. Below is an excerpt from the foreword of Sobonfu Some’s “The Spirit of Intimacy.” The book deals with the spiritual relationships of the Dagara people. You who dare, assist the African Blood Siblings; let love rule you.  I wrote great poems in “Maroon and Build For Self.”  Read some.  Write the ABS about helping to build African Blood Siblings Community Centers.  Subscribe, share, love.

[Excerpt from] the Foreword of Sobonfu Some’s “The Spirit of Intimacy”
by Julia and Francis Weller

Her [Sobonfu Some’s] world view is in many ways vastly different from the one that is familiar to us in the West. Notions of intimacy and sexuality are frequently turned completely around from what we assume to be true. Our belief in the primacy of the individual, for example, gives rise to relationships that are “privatized,” owned by us and cut off from community and from spirit. In the indigenous worldview of Sobonfu’s people, the idea of a relationship existing outside the context of the village and the sacred is absurd and extremely dangerous.

We have gradually learned from Sobonfu over the last several years that marriage, indeed any relationship, is a gift from spirit and requires our gratitude and a willingness to hear what spirit has brought us together for. We have learned that here in the West, just as in Sobonfu’s culture, purpose is central to existence, and relationships are avenues for one’s purpose to be expressed. Intimacy is not designed or encouraged for the achievement of personal happiness; rather it is for the fulfillment of one’s life purpose, for the enrichment of the village, and for the expression of spirit. It is a means of offering the gifts you carry.

These ideas are near heresy to us with our sense of entitlement, “the pursuit of happiness,” but when it comes to matters of relationship, there is indeed a larger vision than we have imagined. We are culturally in our adolescence concerning intimacy. What is offered here, in these pages, are openings into an ancient culture whose wisdom can help us take the next step.

6 thoughts on “Excerpt from the Foreword of “The Spirit of Intimacy”

  1. maybe with some more intimacy, there might be less compensation through excessive indulgence and rampant promiscuity, but again, in a state of arrested development, pathology will be the response. I would like to see how the “hood” collective respond to this notion of shared intimacies

    1. You write yourself that we depend on Europeans for our behaviorism. The dichotomy of ‘hood’ and ‘good’ won’t liberate us. Truly, we must understand, that African people are naturally more intimate. We simply need to propagate this message. Then ‘hood’ (the emulation of Europeans) will subside and ‘good’ (the emulation of Africans) will flourish.

      1. What reveals itself to me ceases to be mysterious—for me alone: if I unveil it to anyone else, he hears mere words which betray the living sense: Profanation, but never revelation.


        I tell you to speak to our people, gather a team and create a center. When I first spoke it, maybe you were not fully convinced. Soon, when you have your team, it will be natural and you shall speak. I am only pointing you to Liberation. So it is with the true guides of spirit.

        Read the link above.

      2. Sadly I have done this. I was that missionary of old until I realised that many would be African people wanted nothing to do with finding alternatives. Expect them build centre? I can’t even get them to do something as minimally commital as buying books. Perhaps the time for building has passed and as you suggest there is a need to realise what is. If this centre did exist all I would see is banality institutionalized . It’s a fictional finalism

      3. I am unsure what you mean by ‘realise what is;’ but I refer you to three relevant texts:

        The Science of Struggle: https://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/05/20/the-science-of-struggle/

        What is Responsibility?: https://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/08/30/what-is-responsibility/

        And KMT Self-Knowledge and Cosmic Wisdom [quotations]: https://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/02/04/kmt-self-knowledge-and-cosmic-wisdom-quotations/

        In the first, we are introduced to the Creation narrative of ancient Africa. Therein, the Creator creates from the Uncreated. Struggle is thus creating from the uncreated. The second and third posts above correspond with this conclusion; the second pointing out what is uncreated, the third pointing out the gradation of consciousness. This is the basis of African psychology, that there is within us an uncreated aspect that grows by stages of consciousness.

        The presumption is that the uncreated within each of us is a Loving, Knowledgeable and Wise African. To use an example from your life, you are an African person who would strongly benefit from an African environment; yet, when you were younger you did not so much as know that you were an African person. What does this mean beside that within each of us is a spirit that would benefit from something it is not necessarily aware of by default? I.e. you consume and even sell books of the African genre, but once you didn’t even know the importance therein; as it were, your inherent drive was tapped and you thus came closer to who you are: Loving, Knowledgeable and Wise.

        This comes to your point on whether building is antedated. The African spirit is eternal. If a solution was ever good it is always good. Ergo, it’s upon you to develop rapport with Africans and develop their uncreated spirit–using Love, Knowledge and Wisdom. Therein you will see the center for what it is, “communal spots of restorative consciousness to raise us into loving, knowledgeable and wise Africans.”

        To speak it more specifically, the European and Asian advances on us “Hate, Ignorance and Error.” The ABSCC advances on us “Love, Knowledge and Wisdom.” Without the ABSCC only one set of influence affects African people. You have the Love, Knowledge and Wisdom today to change that.

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