Listen Siblings, I come in peace,
“Our senses serve to affirm, not to know.” — KMT Proverb
As an African who loves our people, I sometimes lose composure adoring the women of our race; for their beauty is supreme. But senses are to affirm beauty; not to learn of it. It is spirit which guides us to the right relationships. Those strong bonds can inspire poetry, but more importantly, those strong bonds suit purpose. Below is an excerpt from the foreword of Sobonfu Some’s “The Spirit of Intimacy.” The book deals with the spiritual relationships of the Dagara people. You who dare, assist the African Blood Siblings; let love rule you. I wrote great poems in “Maroon and Build For Self.” Read some. Write the ABS about helping to build African Blood Siblings Community Centers. Subscribe, share, love.
[Excerpt from] the Foreword of Sobonfu Some’s “The Spirit of Intimacy”
by Julia and Francis Weller
Her [Sobonfu Some’s] world view is in many ways vastly different from the one that is familiar to us in the West. Notions of intimacy and sexuality are frequently turned completely around from what we assume to be true. Our belief in the primacy of the individual, for example, gives rise to relationships that are “privatized,” owned by us and cut off from community and from spirit. In the indigenous worldview of Sobonfu’s people, the idea of a relationship existing outside the context of the village and the sacred is absurd and extremely dangerous.
We have gradually learned from Sobonfu over the last several years that marriage, indeed any relationship, is a gift from spirit and requires our gratitude and a willingness to hear what spirit has brought us together for. We have learned that here in the West, just as in Sobonfu’s culture, purpose is central to existence, and relationships are avenues for one’s purpose to be expressed. Intimacy is not designed or encouraged for the achievement of personal happiness; rather it is for the fulfillment of one’s life purpose, for the enrichment of the village, and for the expression of spirit. It is a means of offering the gifts you carry.
These ideas are near heresy to us with our sense of entitlement, “the pursuit of happiness,” but when it comes to matters of relationship, there is indeed a larger vision than we have imagined. We are culturally in our adolescence concerning intimacy. What is offered here, in these pages, are openings into an ancient culture whose wisdom can help us take the next step.