How you can save the African Family

Listen Siblings, I come in peace,

“Save the African Family.  Save the African race.” — Onitaset Kumat

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How you can save the African Family
By Onitaset Kumat

For African people, anywhere in the world, to churn out strong and determined communities, African people will need to strengthen their families.  In the United States of America, African people have turned their backs on their communities.  They are neither productive nor invested in their local economic centers.  If a ten-year-old walks with his pants around his thighs, no one will raise an eyebrow.  Few Africans so much as identify as Africans, let alone know basic history thereupon.  No one knows how much money their communities are worth.  The need to improve the African family and by extension the African community is self-evident.  And it’s incredibly easy.

The biggest downfall of the African family relates to the single parent household.  In 1939, E. Franklin Frazier attempted to convince us that poverty and urbanization was to blame.  In 1965, the U.S. Government attempted to convince us that unemployment was to blame.  In 1974, the film Claudine attempted to convince us that welfare was to blame.  In 2012, I’ll convince you that if you know any broken families next month you are to blame.

Because a single parent household is where young men do not have male socialization and young women do not have female socialization; instead, in a single parent household, a mother just keeps a family alive.  This is why the stated life purpose of Africans in America is “Survival,” not development.  Hence why Communities of Africans are bent on “Survival” not development.  Socialization is gendered, but can further be divided into the Trinity of Liberation.  Therefore Male Socialization teaches a man how to manage himself, his family, his fraternities and his community; how to produce for himself, his family, his fraternity and his community; and how to procreate for himself and his community (politics, economics and culture respectively): this socialization would make strong African men who are both inwardly and outwardly respectable.  Female Socialization is parallel.  So rather than individualized and unfashionable adults wandering carelessly half-naked in the streets; socialization would produce communal and regal sisterhoods and brotherhoods whom commuted with prideful purpose toward bettering self and community.

Yet those individualized and unfashionable adults wandering carelessly half-naked in the streets are already parents.  So like Claudine, some women already have seven children from five men, and like Claudine’s counterpart, some men already have six children with four women.  And these prolific men won’t have anything to do with their children.  So socialization seems difficult.  But it’s not.  It’s time to remember your traditions.

An Elder can tell you, the Maternal Uncle, the Mother’s Brother, had an important role in African families in the South.  More relevantly, throughout traditional Africa, the Maternal Uncle plays an important role in the families of African people.  In other words, if you are a man, socialize your nephews.  And if you are a woman, tell your brothers to socialize your sons and sisters your daughters; erstwhile, socialize your daughters and nieces.  Problem solved.  This is the essence of Sankofa and why we are geniuses.

In this arrangement, the necessary socialization occurs.  It’s also traditional: both matriarchal and matrilineal.  Here, through socialization, men and women are taught about dowries (the women receive dowry before entering a relationship); and no matter the involvement of the father, the Maternal Uncle can socialize his mother’s male descendents into strong men for the family.  No longer will Africans be self-destructive, but self-productive.

With this in mind, single parent households (households without male or female socialization) hereafter will be blamed on you.  You know better and should teach better.  Make it your responsibility to learn this article back and forth.  Then share and promote the ideas.  African people need you to promote the African Blood Siblings‘ remedies.  Save the African Family.  Save the African race.

Hotep

9 thoughts on “How you can save the African Family

  1. omalone1

    tell your brothers to socialise your sons. I refuse to speak to mine. (he no longer exists) In the case, your strategy might fall short. Again, if people cannot meet basic standards of decency, all talk is mere idealism which will never amount to much. Maybe if these females also maintained a standard of decency, and chose someone who matched it, this “problem” of single parents would not exist, but I could be wrong?

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    1. Onitaset Post author

      A lot of times, we enter relationships without having a purpose in mind, mostly because we do not know ourselves.

      Two relevant posts to your inquiry are these:

      Fable: Knobeco and Love — http://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2011/12/05/fable-knobeco-and-love/

      Excerpt from the Foreword of “The Spirit of Intimacy” — http://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/05/05/excerpt-from-the-foreword-of-the-spirit-of-intimacy/

      The former is a Fable which I wrote to showcase how “Love” comes from first Knowing oneself, then being oneself. The latter is an interesting excerpt touching upon the spiritual aspect of relationships. Check them both out.

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    2. sittinducks

      We probably won’t solve the problem of weak Black extended families, unless we look at the context in which they occur. We would have to examine the larger white influence as well as the Black community itself. Females and males both must have standardsin order to ensure the survival and safety of the community. It is a patriarchal notion that the female is solely responsible for getting pregnant. Patriarchy is a criminal system and it is largely responsible for irresponsible pregnancies. It teaches it’s males to hunt females down like cattle and then abandon them and their helpless offspring and move onto the next victim. After all “boys will be boys”. The western male slogan is “Love ‘em and leave ‘em”. Let’s start with looking at systems.

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      1. Onitaset Post author

        Truth! More, our traditional practice of dowries can enlighten the conversation.

        In Traditional Europe, the woman’s family gave the man a dowrie. Partially because the view was that women were burdens, so her Father gave her away covering her expenses for her future husband.

        In Traditional Africa, the man’s family gave the woman’s family a dowrie. This made it clear that the woman was more valuable than the man, because the woman represented the extension of a family line and family is very important. This mentality was taken from us. It’s the return here that would make women value themselves more and this “liberated” abuse a remnant of our past.

        Unfortunately, the European always “Supplants the meaning.” So when he went to Africa he made even some of us believe that we were “buying” our wives. It’s just the same sort of supplanting that he did to song and dance–where now both are ‘entertainment’ instead of ‘spiritual exercises.’ I invite everyone to read more on Monogamy here: http://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/09/21/is-polygamy-really-african/

        This is why we recruit people to be diligent readers. Intelligent leaders is the result.

    1. Onitaset Post author

      Thanks Brother.

      We represent a tradition of uplift. I met with a man on the streets today. He was a Panther who had seen the Southern lynchings firsthand and nearly got his neck in a noose. He struggled then, we must struggle now, for no one will create those triumphant African families but us.

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  2. blackmystory

    If only we as a people could get off this selfish train to destruction and seriously implement your strategy, within a generation we can rise up. until then it can only be done one person at a time. I will do my part. thanks for the insight.

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    1. Onitaset Post author

      Sibling,

      The man who knows how to lead one of his brothers towards what he has known may one day be saved by that very brother. — KMT Proverb

      Assimilate our knowledge and pass it on. When I need assistance and it is given, if your name is referenced at least now I can know why.

      I think that you will delight in my posting entitled “Letter from Merilan.” It’s about the proverb above. Also, more proverbs from our ancient history can be read on this site. And, I expect to share more beneficial knowledge in the future, please subscribe and continue to write.

      Our Mother shared this site with you. As your Brother, I welcome you.

      Letter From Merilan: http://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2011/11/05/letter-from-merilan/

      KMT Proverbs: http://africanbloodsiblings.wordpress.com/2012/02/04/kmt-self-knowledge-and-cosmic-wisdom-quotations/

      Reply

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